Monday, October 15, 2012

Heidi to Alex

I wasn’t given a middle name and I always wanted one. So, when I was in my early 20’s I moved out of state. I thought, this is a new start so I’ll make up a new name. I chose Alexandria, because it sounded like a big-girl grown up name. Then I went by Alex, because I thought it sounded like a don’t-mess-with-me kind of name. (Can you see the difficulties coming?)
The California DMV took my word that I had a middle name and so they put it on my driver’s license. Once it was on an official ID most everything else falls in place. (Except the Arizona DMV who gave me grief because Alex isn’t on my birth certificate. But it’s on my passport! Take that Arizona DMV!)
So the people I’ve met in my adult life call my Alex and the people from high school call me Heidi. When I introduce myself, I sometimes stumble, trying to remember who I am to which group. Stumbling on your own name doesn’t make you look the brightest of individuals.
There are a few more downsides to making up a name, especially a guy’s name. I have several things (insurance, professional license, bank accounts) under Heidi Alex. When I get called I say, “This is Alex.” Then I get “I’m looking for Heidi.” So I have to give a little explanation. Also, I work with people who are elderly. They generally think I say “Alice” but I’m happy to leave it at that. What I should have done is change my name every time I moved to another state. Managing five different names would have been awesome. I could just choose who I wanted to be that day.

1 comment :

Rachel said...

I love that you just picked a new name for yourself. I think Alex suits you perfectly. And you look gorgeous!